Toddlers have this special skill. They have a keen sense for seeing what others have, wanting that, and instantly disregarding what they have themselves. You've seen it. Kid plays with toy. Sees another kid's toy. Tosses the first toy to the side, and goes for the other kid's toy. And what happens when Kid #1 can't get Kid #2's toy? Pandemonium ensues. A tantrum is thrown. Essentially, all hell breaks loose. And we very grown, mature adults have to step in to bring peace on earth again. We have to teach them how to behave and appreciate what we have because we would never do that. Right....?
We all do it, even after we are well out of our terrible twos. The outburst may not be so dramatic, but we internalize our tantrums or they come out in a different forms. Feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, doubt, and fear are all symptoms of our less attention grabbing outburst.
We see what someone else has, we wish we had it, and we beat ourselves up when we don't get it. Sound familiar? I know that is all too real for me.
Nowadays, it seems like everyone is a photographer, knows a photographer or is on their way to be a photographer. (Thanks iPhone for putting a quality camera in everyone's pocket!) And social media doesn't help either. Don't get me wrong, I'm not the 'anti-social' media guy. In fact, it helped me achieve some things with photography that wouldn't have otherwise been possible. But social media creates a dangerous trap. We get into this game of comparison that causes an unhealthy thirst to be more than we are.
I'm not saying don't have drive. Drive and hunger to grow into who you should be is great! But it is not great when it stems from an external motivator like wanting to be someone else.
Find joy in who you are, where you are in your process and savor every moment of becoming their man or woman you have been called to be.
I am in the midst of this process. I used to compare myself to so many people. I would wish I had their followers. I wanted so badly to have their engagement. I hoped people would give me the accolades others got for their photos. You know what that did? It trapped me within myself. I fell victim to the comparison trap. I was so caught up in growing to be like other people, that I forgot to grow into being me.
Now don't get me wrong, I am still working to over come this. This first step to being freed from the comparison trap is appreciating who God made you to be. And I am constantly going back to step one. But each time I do, I am one step closer to finding my way out, forever.
So come with me on the journey of appreciating who God made you to be. It won't happen over night, but unless you start, it will never happen.